Define happiness. I can bet you a million bucks right now it’s going to be the hardest explanation of your life. I must warn you that if you decide to continue reading there may be something in this writing piece that may trigger you. If you get triggered I want you to stop and close your eyes. Tell your ego to leave, put your hands on your heart center and take four deep breaths in and out. Slow and deeply. I promise you that you are not the only one triggered and whatever comes up I want you to feel every emotion.
Happiness. The majority of our population are not happy without a partner by their side or something or someone other than themselves that brings them happiness. It’s true. There’s a huge difference between self-contained happiness and relying on something else to make you happy. If you are relying on something or someone to make you happy then that’s a different form of happiness. If you were all by yourself with no one around, would you still be happy? Would complete boredom set in and would you find yourself calling every person imaginable in your contact list with the hopes they’d pick up the phone? Would you go max out a credit card by filling your home or drawers and closets up with nonsense that you truly do not need? Or, better yet would you call whomever picked up and start a series of world class drama? Are you always finding yourself involved in doing something spectacular for someone else? The joy and gratification you receive on the other end is not real and it’s time to start putting your focus on making yourself happy.
Triggered yet? If so, it’s only the beginning…Start breathing.
“Misery loves company”. It is a truth bomb we have all heard before. Have you ever been in a room where there’s that one person always chatting about someone else’s life? Its called drama, my friend! If you didn’t choose to walk away then I am sorry to break it to you but you are part of the drama. Everyone has been involved at some point in their life. Don’t worry, you are not alone. How does it feel? That is the question worth asking yourself. Again, if you stayed and decided to get in on the conversation, you are part of the drama. It is time to ask yourself; why? Look, we can be doing so many different things. Loneliness is quite scary for some people. It means that we are alone in our thoughts. It may even mean that we might be forced to come into our own feelings and feel an actual emotion instead of just continuing on our journey of fight or flight. Unraveling the truths of what we try to bury is so much easier than actually trying to understand our pain. It is the human in us. Most of us have all been there and I am here to tell you that it is okay. And, everything will be okay. Take that mask off. You are beautiful and truly amazing even if your soul has been a little broken and in desperate need of love and care. No one else is going to be able to do it for you, trust me.There is not a person, place or thing that will fix the one thing our soul needs and wants; Self-love. Our soul only knows love and love has no boundaries. It is time to unravel the pieces and become whole.
How do we become whole? After spending an entire lifetime in the rat race in seeking fulfillment from anything or anyone but ourselves; Where do we go from here? Let’s start with this…What makes you happy? Go ahead I dare you to ask and answer! If the first thought is your spouse, your children, your best friend or going shopping…ehh, try again! Yes, all these things can absolutely make us happy and I hope that they really are a part of your day that makes you happy. What about the days that no one is around to be a part of that happiness? What if you are now left with your own thoughts and your own company? Do you love you? Do you love taking walks by yourself, perhaps taking a nature hike? Are you okay with having the necessities of life that nature gives us or are you on the constant edge of needing more as you are searching for something to make you happy? I am truly sorry to bombard you with all these questions, really. It’s a bit mind boggling, I’m sure.
I know you are triggered by now. Stop, close your eyes, hands on your heart center and breath in and out, deeply for four breaths. Oh and don’t forget to tell your ego to leave! That is the most important part of this breathing exercise. Our ego is our own worst enemy. It wants to see us suffer (I know that sounds really harsh). It is a part of us that doesn’t mesh with our soul, whom only wants and sees love. I think I went in depth about our ego in “Just be”. Great piece! I highly recommend you read it.
Wholeness. It is such a strange word, really. It’s one of those words with so many different meanings and interpretations. When I think of the word “whole” the most important aspect of it, simply put is to be pure and safe in the skin you are in, in the physical body your soul resides in and most importantly knowing your worth. It is the inner portion of ourself that captures all the depths of life. Many, often times, more often than not the universe will catch you at your rock bottom and throw you a shit storm to conquer. The day will come when you are left with a thought process and lots of time to think about everything in your life that makes you whole. The part of you that separates yourself from anything outside of who you truly are, flaws and all. Can you honestly say that you love yourself? I hope you can and if you are undecided or said “No”, it’s time to take on the journey of self-love. Embrace the journey because it is what you came back to finally overcome. After years and years of the same cycles it is now time to look yourself in the mirror and say, “I will love you the way you deserve to be treated” and life will start loving you right back!
A prelude to more…”A Sojourn Journey”.
Love and Light, Always!
Diana Rose Borisuck.
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