An Ancient Proverb
Awareness and being present is key.
That is where this proverb now has become personal.
A hysterectomy is more than a surgical procedure. It is a physical and emotional loss. Mine was medically necessary. It can also carry many layers of meaning. Identity, womanhood, control, fear, relief and grief. Sometimes it can happen all at once.
I have had to ask myself so many time…”What am I holding onto emotionally that my body might still be processing?”
Even though my body looks like it is healing beautifully, my nervous system is still on high alert. After many weeks of surgical healing, testing and visits to the doctor for all of this pain and pressure as well recently, just last week a cyst had ruptured in my good ovary. My mind is a never ending battle of flight or fight right now. So, my mind is not receiving the message that it is okay to relax and let go right now. And, being that my mind is tense the body is following suite. Tight muscles, pelvic floor tension and that lingering feeling of pressure and incomplete release.
In the beginning of this week I decided to change some things. Instead of only asking myself, “What’s wrong physically?” I started asking…”What is my body trying to tell me?”
Maybe I am anxious. It was only 8 years ago that I was here with my thyroid. “Am I broken?”
Am I bracing this without realizing it?
Am I afraid something was missed? Am I already thinking….what’s next?
These questions are simply deepening my understanding of what is going. I am learning that healing is also me teaching my body that it is safe again and it is okay to let go. Healing isn’t just about getting a normal test result, it is about feeling at ease in my own body again…
Letting go of fear that something is wrong when I have been medically cleared.
Practicing deep breathing and moving on to what I know to heal a bit more holistically. I feel like I may have lost that having to be within the western medical ways.
Being patient with certain sensations that may take a bit longer to heal that will not show up on a scan.
And, lastly but the most important; Acknowledging the emotional weight of this experience rather than trying to push it away. I need to be gentle with myself. I need to show myself grace. I need to show myself unconditional love.
Some days are different than others. I am starting to trust that healing is not a straight line, it is different for everyone and it is a process of reconnecting with myself. The most important connection in our life.

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